Empty Nest Syndrome
Sylvia walks into Beth's room and sits down on the bed. There, piled up on the pillows are all the stuffed animals that she had given her over the years. Fluffy bunny was given to her daughter on her first Easter. He looks at her now with a sad look...
How to Decide Whether to Keep Your Marriage or Other Relationship Going or to End It
In their top-selling book "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins offer expert advice to help you decide how to know WHEN or IF it's time to break up, leave your relationship or get a divorce. Theirs is...
Planning your wedding
Since the divorce rate is at an all time high many are asking when and if they should marry? It is interesting that at the beginning of the 20th Century men were in their late twenties before getting married.
In the early part of 1960 half of...
Reasons You Aren't Starting the Decision Making Process About Whether To Get a Divorce Or Stay Married
Along with any tough decision comes reluctance, especially when that decision involves an actual process and might potentially involve emotional pain or anguish. Deciding whether or not to get a divorce or stay married can be a frightening time...
The Over-Working Mother
The Working Parent
Since the 1950’s, the number of women going into the work field has risen steadily year-by-year. This change has affected the way men and women are married as well as the way men and women parent. According to the U.S....
Relationship Advice: Wash That (Bad) Man Out of Your Hair
Stuck on a guy who cheats on you? Lies? Claims he loves you but can’t marry you because a) his wife won’t divorce him, b) his last relationship ended so painfully it nearly killed him, or c) he can’t make a commitment until his kids are in college?
Here’s how to get unstuck:
1) Understand that you have no control over the situation. You can't make a man love you the way you deserve to be loved, you can't keep him faithful, you can’t force him to tell the truth. If he’s not willing, forget it.
2) Let go. Don't call a man who causes you pain. Don't go looking for him (in other words, stop picking at the pimple). If Aunt Polly asks what happened to that lovely fellow you brought to Cousin Elmer’s wedding, tell her he died.
3) Close your heart. Sure, your blood pounds whenever the guy walks into the room, but you can change this. Definitely. Write a list of the things you don't like about him (be honest; there are a couple!). Refer to this list whenever you're tempted to fantasize about him, or worse, contact him. Bring to mind the times he made you feel bad about yourself in 3-dimensional detail.
Your goal is to become indifferent. In other words, you want to get to the point
where you’d rather shop for socks than hang out with the guy.
4) Write a list of all things you have going for you: Sense of humor? Compassion? Resourcefulness? Remember every compliment you've ever gotten. Write them down. Whip ‘em out whenever you start mooning over What’s-His-Name. Know that you're an excellent catch.
5) Take care of yourself. Speak to yourself as you would a beloved child. Wear clothes that honor your body. Eat foods that nourish you. Avoid convenience foods that damage your health and your looks. Buy yourself flowers.
The antidote to being stuck on a bad man is to learn to love yourself enough to stop being attracted to him. The bonus? After a while, you’ll start attracting (and being attracted to!) men who really know how to love a woman.
Go for it.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Terry Hernon MacDonald gave up dating losers, schmoozers, and No-Show Joes 16 years ago. She is the happily married author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com